I Don't Get Him

Yesterday ended up having a total of four pant changes for my son.  Today, he woke up all excited for preschool, but when the time came to go, he didn't want to.  I told him he could go or take a nap instead.  He opted for a nap and has been laying in his bed now, awake, for about 2 hours.  He even knowingly missed show and tell today.  I don't understand my child, at all.  Is all this just his way of demanding control of something?  Nothing consistently motivates the kid. God is the only one who really knows him and I've been attempting, unsuccessfully, to "pick His brain" for ideas on how to help him help himself.  I've been working on this potty training thing forever...he's been in underwear about an entire year now and we still had four substantial accidents yesterday.  What am I missing?  What need of his is not being met?  How do I find out where I'm going wrong as a parent?  Only God has the answers on this one and I'm waiting on the day when He sees fit to reveal them to me in some form or another.  I just hope I don't miss it when He does.  Perhaps I already have.  This is certainly a time in my life where I am trying desperately to learn to be patient and trust in the Lord's time.  This goes for the selling of my home, as well.  It is one of the harder things I've had to learn...I'm very slow at it.  I'm glad God has patience with me as well.